How to deal with failure

Failure is something everyone has to deal with at some point or another. These talks present interesting ways to deal with the fact you failed and how to move on from there

Seek Happiness, Don’t Dwell

Talk: Want to be Happier? Stay in the Moment – Matt Killingsworth

A key reason why we fail to deal with failure is a result of our inability to move past the failure. This often stems from our tendency to dwell on things, often overshadowing any of the good things in our lives.

In this talk, Matt talks about research he has done on happiness. In it he found that people’s minds have a tendency to stray away from the present moment and that, most likely, people are focusing on unpleasant things when they do, which sucks any joy out of any moment. This stops you from being happy and being able to move past the failure you experienced.

Rather than mind-wandering, why don’t you try staying present?

Full talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qy5A8dVYU3k

Change your definition of failure

Talk: The power to believe that you can improve – Carol Dweck

Often associated with failure is the crippling belief of finality that THIS. IS IT. and there is nothing that can be done. Carol explores how this is linked to whether or not you have a growth or a fixed mindset. She explores how simply re-framing how we think, to see our failure as merely a “Not Yet” as opposed to a “Failure” will allow us to see things such as effort and difficulty as an opportunity to learn and grow as opposed to making you feel dumb and like giving up.

Full talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_X0mgOOSpLU

Keep Fighting

Talk: Success, Failure and the Drive to Keep Creating – Elizabeth Gilbert

One of the hardest things about failing is to lose the fear of failing in order to make yourself want to keep fighting. In this talk, Elizabeth discusses her experience of failing, succeeding and then failing again and what made her keep going.

Full talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_waBFUg_oT8

Oluwamiseun O-White

Oluwamiseun O-White. Founder and President of The Vital Initiative Africa. Law Undergraduate.

In this video, Oluwamiseun explains her reasons for founding The Vital Initiative Africa: a development and leadership initiative aiming to provide young African girls with the tools to become effective leaders in their future careers. She does this through exploring the impact the underutilisation of women will have on Africa, and the nations within it, considering it is set to be the home of a quarter of the world’s population by 2050.

How to make the most of you

With the New Year having just arrived, we often hear phrases such as “new year, new me” thrown around. Instead of aiming for a magical transformation, why don’t you aim to make the most of who you are?

Here are some ways on how to do just that:

Be Aware

Talk: Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are – Amy Cuddy

Body language is important. You’ve probably heard it all before: “sit up straight”, “firm handshakes”, “keep your arms uncrossed” – but why does it matter? Easy. Numerous studies have shown that how we carry ourselves affects how people think of us; it is a way in which people can effectively judge you without even having spoken to you.

However, in this talk, Amy explores how our body language can affect how we think of ourselves. Concluding with  “It’s not fake it till you make it, it’s fake it till you become it”. So become it.

Find the full talk at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc

Be Vulnerable

Talk: The Power of Vulnerability – Brené Brown

Being vulnerable is hard. It’s uncomfortable. It’s a bit scary.  But ultimately, it’s necessary.

How do we do this?

The solution to this Brené states is for people to allow themselves to be seen, to have “the courage to be imperfect”.

So what’s stopping you from being vulnerable today?

You can find the full talk at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o

Be Yourself

Talk: The art of being yourself – Caroline McHugh

A repetitious, seemingly out-dated lesson we are always reminded of is to be ourselves, but as Caroline points out WHAT DOES THIS ACTUALLY MEAN? Her talk is inspiring in that she seamlessly and confidently delivers a powerful message about how you can discover the “unique gift that the universe gave you” and put that at the service of your goals.

If you want to hear the full talk, you can find it at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=veEQQ-N9xWU

Alice Moscicki

Alice Moscicki. Criminal Justice Policy MSc.

In this video, Alice talks about why there is a need for penal reform. Though she talks largely about the USA, she notes how these same problems can be found within the UK prison system and the disproportionate impact this has on individuals that fall within specific socioeconomic groups. She does this by looking at the impact on individuals both in and out of prison, the role of prisons, the response of society to such individuals and how politics underpins it all.

“I want to spend the rest of my life figuring out how to make it better”

Currently, Alice is the Vice President of LSESU’s Penal Reform Society. Check out what they’re doing, including their Prison isn’t Working Campaign, at https://www.facebook.com/LSESUPenalReformSociety/?fref=ts

Aysha Fekaiki

Aysha Fekaiki. LSE Community and Welfare Officer. Human Rights Masters Student.

In this video, Aysha sheds light on the impact that war can have within the family through telling the story of her family’s experience of the Gulf War and the incredible decisions war will push people to make. All of this serves to reinforce her main point that in times of conflict “we should always be seen as more than just civilians”.